Chess makes me depressed (serious post) I Need Help

I feel like you all dont realize the orignal poster said this ~8 years ago.

I didn't see this one at first. Yes, I think that skill is treated as credit. I know this pretty well personally because I love chess and love participating in that world, but have difficulty learning and so can't really get past six or seven hundred. Now I like to make chess videos, and do chess web stuff, but even though I'm careful not to teach people things, and just share information etc, there's a general sense that I pick up on that I don't have a right to be in that space. You're probably familiar with that attitude. If a person isn't at least rated such-and-such FIDE they have no business rubbing shoulders with the real chess players. That sort of thing. Obviously a lot of that is projection, but it's a pretty well-established problem.

boy do i get how you feel 

Yes, but when I checked his user ID, it said he was last on line 15 minutes ago. So he must have worked through his problems.

I thought maybe training would help but I am probably restrained by my IQ It sucks seeing everyone be better than you at everything and improve much faster I wish I could grow some neurons

Stop playing blitz and start playing rapid. You get much more time to think. Also, once you finish a game, the 'Game Review' button is your friend. It will give you tips to improve, suggest lessons, and help you learn from your mistakes.

same for me but instead of chess its homework xd

It took me some time to realize that since I began playing better, it raised my confidence in my ability, which also meant that as a result, I began relying less on my calculating abilities because I became a bit cocky and would think, at least subconsciously, that I wouldn't need to calculate as much to find good moves. This caused me to only take a few seconds to calculate before playing a move, meaning I didn't take the time to check the entire position and avoid blunders that aren't immediately visible. In Blitz, this is necessary to avoid losing on time, and it is also why I can end up losing in ways that I probably shouldn't at my level (and also why I have a rating gap of about 600 between Blitz and Rapid). It would probably be better to play longer Rapid games, and, even if you don't think it is necessary, to take plenty of time to make absolutely sure you aren't allowing your opponent to gain an advantage through a relatively obscure tactic or move sequence. This should keep you from dropping below the new level you've reached, and can even let you beat higher-rated opponents and advance farther up the ranks, since they may fall into the same trap I do, especially noting the rating difference. They may think it will be a breeze to win and victory won't require particularly heavy calculation on their part. Whether or not my advice is good is subject to opinion and I do not know whether it will help you or not, but it is what I find works best in my case.

i resonate with this. god i hate this game and how much frustrated and vulgar and eventually depressed it makes me! but i keep getting back at it. it's eating at my heart, my lifespan, i don't know what else.

Being angry and stressed does raise cortisol levels, which can seriously harm your health. If you have such an emotional and negative reaction to losing a game or two, you need to work on putting things in perspective. If chess is doing this to you, there are likely other things that also bring out a stressful response that does you no good.

Is anyone playing chess with me

Dont get to streesed about plauing chess

Remember that chess is just a game.

i totally agree with the top post -- i too hate this game -- i can never get better what ever i try its always two wins up three losses down some days never a win -- i keep thinking my outcomes will change -- i believe that the game online chess is just like online games like poker and is very addictive -- built into the game by the people who run this site -- and just like poker they taunt the big players names around with fame and fortune and how easy it is for them to get this good 2500 plus and up yea de yea da-- but really only a very small number of people excel at this game -- you either have it or you don't -- the cream always rises to the top-- but they make you think just take one course,one puzzle, and things will change- just buy this premium package or get this teacher on zoom at 35 dollars a hour and you will get to the heights you desire --- yea right --

maybe chess live is different -- or at least before online zoom and tv chess came into play -- maybe there was a time when everyone enjoyed the game for what it is --- a game with no rewards at the of the day you played to just play --- hummmmmmmm thats a thought isn't it

so to the person who is depressed know that there are thousand upon thousands of players just like you -- depressed playing this game with no recourse but to keep playing ----- hey i wonder if there is a "aa" outfit for chess???????

i feel this way, I like the game, but cannot even manage to beat a 100 level player. usually by resignation. After being attacked from move two or three i freak out and resign. its pathetic I know. Anyone want to buy all my chess gear?