You really need a chess coach for that, computer programs do not really think in the ways humans do. I doubt for example it will tell you about tempos for example
A program that recognizes patterns in your mistakes

Chess.com's analysis could help believe it or not. If you intentionally do as you said, manually look over the games and see if you are making the same mistakes. It can help. Actually, look at the smallest of your innacuracies you play, and don't just look at the best move but, ask yourself why do you play the other move ? What are you trying to avoid by playing that move ? Why is the other move, a move that doesn't have the same problems as your move choice ? What is it about the best move that made it an unappealing choice, if you considered it a choice ?
Even though it won't tell you everything, there are a lot of things that can be learned from a computer, in spite of its short comings, compared to a human. The reason is, the computer can't think freely, or improvise. It only can calculate what it is programmed to calculate. A human can adjust and this is necessary because, you are almost always going to be playing a human. Often, even if computer tells us the best move, we won't understand why it is the best move, until we are shown the next 5 moves by each side.
The key to this all is, chess is a game that requires you to think a certain way, or to be programmed like the engine is programmed. If you consider the questions I posed to you a few paragraphs ago, you will notice they are questions that make you think in ways you might not ordinarily. Once you learn how a chess player must think, you can learn on your own, but a good mentor is priceless to get you started.

A nice book to help here is Chess Exam and Rating guide by Igor Khmenitsky (forgive my spelling!). Once you go through those problems, it can help show you where you are weak and where you are strong. Then you can get your own help from there.

Chessmaster for PS2 also has a chess school built in, where you are taught by a 3 US chess masters. I got a good bit out of it and truthfully, I could go back and still learn more.

Hey Axe, start playing longer standards (30 min+) and online ... I see you don´t do that (at least not on this site), and you should, it really helps. I only started playing 3-day games a short while ago and am loving it - you have time to use the analysis board to play variations through, don´t have to move until you think you´re sure; you start recognizing things like weak squares, potentially overloaded defenders and strategically wrong decisions (pawn push or double the rooks? Quick attack or stabilise your defence first?). Give it a go, I´m sure it will help!

Hey Axe, start playing longer standards (30 min+)
I started to play over-the-board two hours each side games. At first, I thought I was going to fall for the Scholar mate and go home after a couple of minutes. Instead, I have been able to see a lot more possible opportunties when I know that I had time to look and study the board. I have been able to take my slower game experiences to blitz and shorter games. If you can find a group of people in your area to play round-robin once a week, you'll start to notice your pattern of play and how to modify it.

Just saw your profile, so I thought I would add one more thing, mainly from my personal experience (and also learned it from a great chess coach).
Please stop playing bullet and blitz. It will make you habitual of playing intuitively rather than motivating you to give any position a good deep thought that should help you improve.
I had never played blitz or bullet before, and used to take my own time to think. Yes, I was slow, but majority of my moves were always favored by the engines after they reached the depths of 20-22. After playing bullet and blitz, which are very addictive I must admit, I have realized that they should be kept as the last stop in chess training. Within a week of blitz play, my ability to think deep has deteriorated badly.
So if I were you, then while still training to improve, I would treat blitz and bullet like a plague. Avoid them.
I hate the tactics trainer here for the same reason... I feel obligated to just pick a move. Sometimes I will over look one piece quitely in the corner, before realizing it is the key...

I meant the timer, pushing you to take easy material, while you miss a bishop in the corner or a pawn out of its usual place, for an odd mate, mating net, promotion, etc...

When it comes to the mentor, I have chosen this time around after starting over, to not use the hints...I have surprised myself at how well I have done...

Yeah... and it takes your points away if you use the hints. That is another thing that makes me want to take my time to think more and more and make the move only when I am completely sure of it.
I used the Mentor yesterday after a break of 10 days, and playing blitz for 5 days. My rating on Mentor quickly came down from 1930 to 1901. I couldn't help moving the pieces without thinking lol But yes, I never miss reading the entire text before making the move so I can find out the proper reasoning behind what I am going to do.
I am absolutely befuddled by how I could have a positional understanding greater than yours and yet your tactical insight and overall rating my me look like a total newbie...I don't get it

thanks nameno1had.
Yep, I think using the analysis thing will help. I might just get around to using an engine.
The good thing that's happened over the past week or so is that I am not all that keen on just "banging out" blitz games. I am actually developing interest in moves, counter moves - analyzing stuff. So I think now I am up for actually patiently
...learning.
hehe you sound like me. plus a couple of hundred ratings points. I have recently gone pretty much cold turkey off of playing way too fast, and started the slow process of learning to play chess. I'm thrilled, and thrilled for you. I look forward to reading the rest of this thread tomorrow.
Hello Ajatsatru and other friends. Presently I am having a rating of 1650 on chess.com. It is not increasing further. I am playing 15 minutes games. If I want to play 30 minutes game, I am afraid I may not find an opponent. Kindly advise me how I can improve my rating. Kindly sugest how to analyse my own game I play occasionally over the board. Ofcourse all chess.com games I see the analysis. Kindly advise.
I have a whole lot of lost chess games with pgn files available off of chessdotcom. Now it would be super if some program could look at batches of my lost games, say 20 at a time and point out mistakes I'm repeating - weak squares, pawns etc. i know people keep changing openings, but I could analyze games with the same opening combos.
Any recommendations for a program good at identifying standard patterns in mistakes?