Napoleon opening

Ive sometimes played Parham opening (e4 e5 qh5) and when my opponent plays nc6 they tend to win. When my opponent plays nf6 the results are more even. When my opponent plays g6 they almost always lose. Last, when my opponent plays ke7 of course they lose.

You know I always thought that Napoleon was e4 e5 qf3. e4 e5 qh5 is Parham if I am correct. Heres a question for you guys......do you still play Parham's matrix chess form if you are black? Like would you play e4 e5 nf3 qc6? Or what if e4 e5 nc3 would you go qh4? Or do you just play nc6 or whatever other more normal opening you do.

OMG I came up with my own defense against this move. When I wa around 1200, I bowed NEVER to lose to this opening again. It's not that I fell for the 4 move mate (ok I did, the first time it was ever done to me), it's just that it's an annoying, stupid opening with lots of traps if black isn't careful. White can follow up with ideas like Nh3, d3, Bg4, and f4 and try to overwelm a black player that plays the usual moves (Nc6, Nf6, d6, 0-0 etc).
Strong players sometimes try this as a way to get you out of theory, but I have deviced a plan, that I have never seen in any opening book, borrowing ideas from the KID, that will leave white in an absolute mess while avoiding all the stupid traps. I even beat GM Nakamura with it during a simul (yes, he tried 2.Qh5 against me).
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with e4 e5, qh5
what is black,s best defnse