I think it's the damned computer engines again is a big part of it. People now think the grob is "officially" the worst first move as if it's some kind of fact due to computers. Forget about personal knowledge, forget about instinctive feeling, forget about the ideas, the computer tells the objective "truth". I swear computer engines have caused as much harm, misunderstandings and wastes of time as much as they've helped. It's no coincidence that the youngest candidates winner ever Gukesh was strictly forbidden from using computer engines for many years.
Having said that it's an exaggeration to say that 1. f3 "ruins kingside pawn structure", many openings feature an early f3 to create a very powerful pawn structure. It's mainly the early queen attack that stops f3/f6 being a good move early on, of course it's far easier for white to ameliorate the situation than black playing 1. ...f6, which hardly ever comes up in black openings as black rarely has time, so should give white massive advantage.
So, I've been looking at openings, and I can't find the point of playing 1. f3. Every other opening does something, but Barnes' Opening only achieves a teensy attack on the centre, doesn't develop any pieces, blocks the kingside horse, and ruins kingside pawn structure. After Barnes' Opening, you shouldn't play g4 after Black moves their e7 pawn. Has anyone else found any uses? I currently feel like this is the worst opening in chess.
Second question:
What makes people think that Grob's Opening is so bad? I read some free samples of one of Henri Grob's books (it's in German so I needed Google Translate, but some of the translations didn't make sense), and for the most part, it was quite helpful. I don't see anything wrong with Grob's Opening other than that you shouldn't move the pawn on f2 after Black moves the pawn on e7. It fianchettoes the bishop, can lead to Grob's Opening: Fritz Gambit (where if Black accepts or denies by moving the pawn, Black loses a rook through White doing Bxb7), but removes most of the reasonability of kingside castling (which I usually don't do anyways). I actually use Grob's Opening often, so what makes its reputation so low?