Depends on my mood. I like a little kibitz in a friendly game. Sometimes I just want to concentrate on the game and my opponent might as well be a computer.
I don't think it's rude to not chat, and sometimes I think some people chat to deliberately distract so they can win easier.
If someone says hi or good luck, I will probably respond in kind, but I normally won't engage in long conversations/discussions because I find it distracting no matter what the time control. I will talk to someone after a game perhaps, but I generally don't like engaging in conversation through typing. Short messages are fine but any extended conversations should be in person or at least by telephone, in my view.
Even playing OTB, I rarely speak during the game, as I am concentrating on playing chess. When I was in college, some friends would constantly kibbitz during a game, which drove me crazy because I found it distracting. One friend, in particular, liked to trash talk and comment on how bad I was. He would frequently say things like: "Massive blunder. Mate in 16." I hated the distracting conversation but there was nothing I could do about it.
I have no objections to talking AFTER the game, but you really should be quiet during the game. The analogy I would make is whether you would talk during an exam. If someone tried to chat with me (about any topic) during an important exam, I would find that very irritating. I don't think that this makes me anti-social; rather I can't focus on my exam if someone is chatting with me. Similarly, it's hard to focus on chess if you are engaged in a conversation.
Even playing OTB, I rarely speak during the game, as I am concentrating on playing chess. When I was in college, some friends would constantly kibbitz during a game, which drove me crazy because I found it distracting. One friend, in particular, liked to trash talk and comment on how bad I was. He would frequently say things like: "Massive blunder. Mate in 16." I hated the distracting conversation but there was nothing I could do about it.
You could have stopped playing against those particular players. If you were not enjoying a friendly game, which was the point of playing?
Everyone's comments are good! I am about to play a blitz chess game
and wonder if any chat will occur. I am in sore throat recovery.
Sometimes a little chat is extremely welcome and makes me play better
because I remember it's just a game, however much "chess is life"! but sometimes am just not in the mood. So agree with Cliff_Sedge.
I don't usually chat because many times my opponent swears or us just rude in some other fashion. I've found too few players with any civility. I am certain this post with prove my point.
it's a pity you think that. I think most people on chess.com are nice!
Have you tried "the real world"???
Chess.com to me is an Oasis, I go there to escape into a beautiful realm.
I like to talk on live chess, gotten to know a lot of cool people through that. Mostly it's gg and sometimes if the opponent wants a rematch I will say something at the start of te next game. Also I always say hi when I play someone of the same country as me.
Although messages can be hard to interpret. Last night for instance a player said: you got lucky and then resigned and offered a rematch. Normally I'm like I got lucky? WTF play better but he offered a rematch so probably he wasn't being very negative. Still I declined the rematch because of this message.
Very rude players I block after the game.
perhaps you are coming to this site to be a social butterfly (which is fine and respectable too) but if you are playing a game perhaps you should just concentrate n the game...most people that come to chess.com come to play chess and dont want to be bothered. Is also called respecting your opponent?
At what point did someone typing Good Game, or Good Luck become a "bother?"Also, its not a matter of being a social butterfly, its common courtesy, and manners. Respecting your opponent is typing something nice, ignoring them is not respecting them.
Interesting thread.
Apparently there are two mind sets on this chat issue.
1) It is a war, murder, kill, mame, wound, win at all costs. Dont say hi to me.. lol
2) Im just out to have fun, learn, have a glass of wine, play some chess,.. btw, where do you live.. kb5.. What are your hobbies.. kb6... Please respond.. kb7... oh no Ive been mated..
Its interesting that these pretty, lady like, lady chess players are number 1s... You guys will probably rule the world one day.. Feel free to say hi to me during a game though, Ill say it back.. Even though you want to destroy me.. lol
I fall some where in the middle, I am certainly not good enough at 1565 to consider it a war, however I do like to take it seriously.
#1 Chess is not a war, its a game. Thats the Nike mentality talking: Just win...lead, follow or get out of the way. 2nd place is 1st place loser, no pain no gain...The power of TV, and advertising.
Im #2, minus the wine, and where do you live?
perhaps you are coming to this site to be a social butterfly (which is fine and respectable too) but if you are playing a game perhaps you should just concentrate n the game...most people that come to chess.com come to play chess and dont want to be bothered. Is also called respecting your opponent?
At what point did someone typing Good Game, or Good Luck become a "bother?"Also, its not a matter of being a social butterfly, its common courtesy, and manners. Respecting your opponent is typing something nice, ignoring them is not respecting them.
There is no need to feel disrespected just because your opponent refuses to chat with you.
An online chess platform just doesn't have the same rule set for social interaction as real life. Many people really just play the board in this situation, because it just doesn't feel like playing a real person.
Sometimes, I've been so busy staring at the board ( I only play 30min. games), that I don't even see my opponents have been chatting until quite awhile after they made thier entry. Then i respond, as long as they were not being rude in what they said.
If they are making rude comments (like ur are slow, or, you will lose give up now, etc.), I ignore it and concentrate extra hard...and usually crush them.
In fact one person said I was being too slow to move, so I made a plan, lined it up, and then started moving really fast...he had no good moves, so he timed out.
I think I got an endorphine rush from that one.
Then I put in a "heh", or "whose slow now?".
Those types are most fun to beat.
If it was a close match and there was no chat or a civil one, I'll put in a "gg" after the game, win or lose.
I never wish them good luck before a game, unless they do first...because the only luck in chess is who plays what color. And it could be taken the wrong way, as in "good luck...you're gonna need it".
Also, no need to be offended if they disable the chat for the game...it probably means they just want to concentrate, or had a bad experince in previous chats.
(I am 2nd) #1 Chess is not a war, its a game. Thats the Nike mentality talking: Just win...lead, follow or get out of the way. 2nd place is 1st place loser, no pain no gain...The power of TV, and advertising.
Cannot agree w/ u more. People who are win win win any cost are total yucky turnoffs. And like anything else, u can be too competitive. And that's okay, just so long as ur comfortable w/ everyone hating u.
Its not hate, Lola...Its jealousy. I dont mean in a condesending way, i just mean it as deep down the people that are all "win...win...win' at any cost, simply dont know how to truley enjoy something. I know...I was there...I had to win at any cost, and i mean at any cost. Its not fun, its a miserable feeling, basing your whole life on a result.
Sometimes, someone will write "gg" at the end of a blitz game, and while
I'm trying to type in a response, they disappear before I hit "return." Then
I feel like they think I've not responded, but I was trying!
Yeah that always happens to me too or other person is insulting you and then quickly leaves, amusing though 
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Sometimes, someone will write "gg" at the end of a blitz game, and while
I'm trying to type in a response, they disappear before I hit "return." Then
I feel like they think I've not responded, but I was trying!
What is blitz training you for? Respond slowly? Respond fast, like water frog
I dont really think its so complicated, I'm not talking about exchanging astrological signs. I dont usually say anything much more than "ugh complicated" or "sweet combo, guess I needed to play [ ]".
Back in my over-the-board days, we used to exchange books of trash talk during 5 minute games. Pretty sure I can think and type at the same time.
I wonder if some of it is that a chunk of people cant type without looking at the keyboard.
perhaps you are coming to this site to be a social butterfly (which is fine and respectable too) but if you are playing a game perhaps you should just concentrate n the game...most people that come to chess.com come to play chess and dont want to be bothered. Is also called respecting your opponent?
Not to mention that telling an opponent something along the lines of, "hi" or "good luck" for me kills my desire to beat my opponent at all costs. Whether it be a massacre, a slow ground out game, a lucky save, or a win on time. I know they are human beings, but I don't want to associate the moves I see on my computer screen with a living, breathing, feeling human being. If I am playing in an OTB tournament, a shake of hands is all that's required. We can go over the game afterwards too, but until then, they're my enemy. I have friends in the real world. I don't need any on the internet.
Completely agree with you....