Check out this post: http://www.chess.com/forum/view/livechess/how-to-master-the-ins-and-outs-of-live-chess and see if it helps with your questions. 
Challenging a friend
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I only seem to be able to challenge a friend to a 3 days / move match. How can I play a normal game, live?