mean messages

People like this exist in any game. Online, it's worse because people have the screen to hide behind and mask their cowardice. If it's bothering you, you can turn chat off for live games~

Chess can be hard so insults aren't fair. Please feel better & know people do care.

Switch off chat, problem fixed.

Hi there.

First of all, I don't mean to take down anyone nor do I wish anyone to feel bad about themselves.

Yet, I do feel the need to rebalance a bit some things that have been said in the original post, and also in the other posts, that mean to be supportive to the original poster.

To begin, I'll point out, that telling someone they'd be "incredibly bad" (at something), is not an insult. It's or a statement, or an opinion. It doesn't establish the moral value of a person, only a level for a given skill.

Then, "who cares how good someone is"? Well, it's here a chess website, where members comes to play chess, and not some dice or card games. One will expect from their opponent to try, at least, to play chess. When someone feels their opponent has been just throwing pawns and pieces over the board at random, they've got the right to feel fooled. What are you doing here wasting people's time, if you won't use your brain at all, and won't put the effort used to calculate 1+1=2 into playing chess moves?

I sure do understand one wants to play some casual game, in a "relax" manner. But relax and chess don't work out well together. Chess is a struggle.

Last thing: If I was that low rated, so close to the minimal level (100), I would not be surprised someone tells me I'm incredibly bad. To be so low means I'm a total beginner, and only getting used to the game, which explains my so very poor performances.

But, even in a house I do visit for the very first time, I never attempt to walk through the walls.

Use then a bit of attention, that's my advice, and don't get offended to be named after what you do produce. It'll be an other story once you'll be able to play chess games with enough attention: then, telling you such thing will be actually only mean.

Good continuation.

I once had a higher rated opponent yelling at me in an OTB game after the game because I didn't play the right pawn break. He was really upset by my bad play...

I experienced a similar anger outburst from an opponent, because I played poorly (after 2 hours public transportation in a winter Sunday....) and got my Queen trapped soon, like before move 20. He complained I made him waste his day. I replied to him, he should not complain since it was the same for me, except I lost on top of it...

No need to discourage someone for being at the beginning. Besides, usually you play opponents of the same level... So critizising a fellow <1000 player for not playing well is kind of rich.

As I see some people downgrade my post, I must make a thing clear:

There is a world of difference between producing poor play because this is all you can, and producing poor play because you're playing chess like one plays Monopoly.

An adult playing chess, even as a total beginner, with the attention span of a three years old, is a disgrace.

I'll add, the OP showed smart enough to make a thread in the forum and to report their opponent, I don't see why they can't remove their Queen from direct threat, except for a total disdain toward chess and their opponent. Each move of each game being played so.

Focus mode is my recommendation.

Their behavior is a reflection of their own insecurities or frustrations, rather than a reflection of your skills or worth as a player.

I resent the report with the messages. Thanks for the tip.

Thank you!

Just stop caring about it. laugh at the mean messages instead. see the funny side as much as you can.

I don't see what is funny in all of that. When someone tells you that you're playing "incredibly bad", there are only two solutions: it is deserved or it is not.

Of course, the apparently legitimate question has been raised: "What is the point of telling that to someone?". Well, what is the point of telling anything to anyone?

Why not try to walk a mile in your opponent's shoes for a change, and see what happened from their point of view? The player begins a game of chess with you, expecting you to try, at the very least, to play some of a game of chess. But what happens is that, you go play with a total lack of concern, basically with the skills of a 3 years old who just learned how to move the pieces. Which is fine if you're three years old, and a question like "How much is 2+2?" already will have you being puzzled. Not so cute when it comes from an older person who's not "mentally challenged".

Hence, your opponent being frustrated to waste their time in a "pick up the mushrooms" session instead of a game of chess, tells you how they feel about your attitude. This is how I see it.

Now, if the OP used the energy they've spent in reporting and creating that whinny thread into playing next game with a more normal attention, that would be it, and all positive in the end.

But no, the OP produced poop in game, and produced then more poop in the forum, in a "why fight my nature since a poop producer is what I am?".

Or else... (?)

You think you have problems with mean messages. Look at my profile to see why.

To tell someone they are bad at chess after you have beaten them is very poor sportsmanship!!!

shows a total lack of character

That said... I cant stand people who play gambits. Not talking about when someone gambits a pawn ... I'm talking about openings: Like the Blackmar-Diemer Gambit and the Englund Gambit.

IMO... those are attempts just to swindle an opponent. Someone plays one of those against me... I dial in and try to play my best chess... playing to crush. And if I do crush them... I don't hesitate to tell them what I think about there opening choice. I use comportment and tact... but I get my point across.