Sportsmanship on chess.com

Chess is competitive -- No one blames you for raging about a loss, or rejoicing after a win. But seriously, don't rub it in. Have some sportsmanship (or rather, competitionmanship)!

When you lose, the most common thing to do is blame something. Especially in bullet games, where I've played over 1700, many games are caused by external factors or luck. At times, I'm am tempted to tell the opponent, you f****** w***e! I bet many of you are. But with the remaining sanity you have, you resist and go beat up a baby. Don't let out on an opponent who beat you while you had your chances.

When you win, a common thing to do is to make fun of the opponent. But don't do that. Your opponent is already angry/sad of the loss. Don't add salt to the wound.

A way to avoid all this is to disable chat. Now, there is no access to insults. But then again, you also filter out the potentially friendly players.

Note: Spectators, if you are going to make a comment such as "You suck" or "Owned" or "Wrecked", please do that before the game is over. After the game, we can see your heckling. We don't need you to tell us that we suck against titled players.

Remember, if you are a bad sportsman, chances are you'll get blocked. And when you're blocked, there are less opponents available, making your livechess experience miserable.

Actually, I think you've already managed to make my experience miserable.

I am with you 100%.   I don't know why there are so many angry players here.  They cannot stand to lose and so they call you names, cursing, and blaming your win on luck.  I now regularly disable the chat because I know sooner or later -- and it happens almost everyday, that someone will begin their heckling, and cursing.  I never respond, but sometimes it makes me want to jump through the screen at them.  Even worse is when they make fun of your loss.  How horrible must their lives be that they would react that way over a game?  I feel sorry for them.

Hm, feeling sorry for them...at the same time that you want to jump through the screen at them.

These miserable pathetic people just need a good pummeling for me to no longer feel sorry for them.  Makes sense to me.

Yes, that would be rather satisfying. (heehee!)

Im sure there's more of us than you think...reminds me of the brotherhood from Orwells 1984

This is why I wish the site had a better blocking system. Need to be able to block all those trolls on Live Chess with a simple click, and only for Live Chess.

In all of the games I've ever played on chess.com, I've never had one opponent that typed anything rude in chat. I've experienced quite a few disconnectors and draw spammers, but that's about it. Honestly, I don't know why there are so many threads on the forums complaining about rude opponents.

A solution to stopping draw spammers (of which I have been one, I confess) is to only allow one draw each, so it should be used wisely.

People who play better than me have no life and deserve to be cursed out and made fun of until they cry themselves to sleep every day. And they probably cheat and are a waste of space. It's the right thing to do.

hahah give that man a cookie

It's easier to be angry at other people than yourself, besides if you go to the trouble of resisting the immediate urge of an insult you sort of lose out on potential rage. Like counting to ten takes the top off. Nah, better to get it out there when you feel it, so you can get over it! 
Or you could just choose an awesome username and insult everyone. 

mailmeforlessons is correct, it's just misplaced anger, but it's really difficult to control after you fail at something you worked really hard at. I'll admit I'm not a strong person in this regard and sometimes I lose on purpose to get used to it, but it's still different when you lose trying.

I had this one opponent, who never spoke a word to me, but kept challenging me to an rematch every single time after he lost (which, incidentally, was every single game) soo, from an winning position as black, i offered him a draw. After awhile, when he hadn't moved (as his time was running out) i decided to offer a draw again; thinking that he must not have received my first one. He resigned immediately after saying, "what:s your issue? Play it out man (paraphrasing). What's up with all the draw offers...trying to psyche me out.".

I was kinda stunned. Soo, when he predictably challenged me again, i went into beast-mode and crushed him the next two games with an attitude.

But something occurred to me after the last win...maybe i should be the better person and squash this unspoken misunderstanding. We've been pretty good friends since we sorted it out.

Ach you kind of regret it after you've raged out...I had a complete meltdown and ended up apologising and resigning.

I don't really have a problem with draw spammers, because I can just ignore their draw offers. It's not like in an actual OTB game, where if someone offers me a draw I have to respond with a yes or a no.

I write D.O. on my scoresheet, and if I decide to reject the offer, I make my move when I am ready. There is no need to answer with yes or no.

If I need to think about it, I can say. "let me think about it." This courtesy is not necessary. Noting the draw offer on the scoresheet is a USCF rule that is mostly ignored. 

OTB rules do not require a verbal when declining a draw offer.  To decline, simply make a legal move and hit your clock.  If you consider this rude, then a simple nod of the head would be better than a verbal answer since talking may distract the players nearby.