You’re partner is correct, play slower time controls if you want to improve.
I played up 2/1 bullet chess not too long ago, mind you as a drinking session but no way I can keep up and got flagged in won positions.
In 15/10 or 90-0, I am competitive with players as strong as 1900.
Some correlation?
Longer time controls allow you to utilize CCT techniques, blunder checks, scan for tactics and exercise deeper or newly gained calculation skills.
Whats more important to you; cheap and shallow thrills or long term improvement, with the option of revisiting speed chess?
Play 15/10.
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My partner suggests doing longer games (I play most 10 minute rapids) so that I can the time to think through my moves more completely, with the idea that I’ll get faster once I get better in my theory, understanding, and execution. I’ve tried this a little but I’m a little concerned that doing it more will actually just breed worse time management habits.
I’ve seen others say that playing bullet is that best way to get rigorous about speeding up your game. Just wondering if anyone other beginners have had the timeout struggled and managed to remedy it?