game 30 is a terrible time control.
Games should last at least four hours or be over in a few minutes.
Are you playing USCF tournament chess? I mean, there's no way to attain a real USCF rating today without playing primarily rapid chess. That's what it seems 90%+ of the tournaments are. When I say rapid, I mean rapid according to FIDE. Of course here in the States we have to be different and have "quick" chess which just sounds dumb.
I'm going to have to look around more for events in southeast NY state here. There's some great action up in Binghamton but that's a pretty big hike up 17 for me. Other than that, there's a 35/5d swiss which runs every Tuesday night and is literally a few miles from my front door. Where the games that I really want to play in are in North Jersey and Manhattan and I have to find a way to get in there more and come up with the reg fees.
Pretty sick bullet win for me. As you see, however, the quality of play for even a ~1400 bullet player falls off tremendously from just 3+2 to 2+1...let alone 15+10, or 45+45, etc.