Chess is not about politeness or courtesies and online even less so. Handshakes are out of fashion in this COVID era. Many courtesies are hypocrite, like insincerely wishing 'good luck' at the start, or saying 'good game' after a bad game. Just play.
Being polite.
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I agree with the first two contributions that being polite is good. I appreciate that on the really fast games (e.g. 5 or faster maybe asking a bit much but a simple thx or gg after the games has finished - is that asking too much?)
Saying good luck before a game is rude. Like you are so good that i can win only by luck.
Jul 29, 2021
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i dunno. i say good game after every game when the opponent hasn't run away.... its not hard.... if they played crap,,, well at least they tried..... what harm can it do?
Euchrid_Eucrow wrote:
i dunno. i say good game after every game when the opponent hasn't run away.... its not hard.... if they played crap,,, well at least they tried..... what harm can it do?
Trying and good game are different imo.
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Well you could say that’s ruder, after all I remember at school always being taught to shake hands with your opponent after a game
Jul 30, 2021
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#9
In your age everything was real, face to face. Now everything is virtual. People are just some texts and numbers to others..
Yes I get that BUT surely some things still carry over and like original poster said politeness is one of those?
Jul 30, 2021
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#11
Good comments I appreciate the feed back. I still feel the few moments it takes to acknowledge your opponent is time well spent (this world badly needs it), and no one is so busy they can't take a minute. Good point on the face to face days of yesterday vs the virtual world of today. I'll continue with my positive comments and complements and consider those who do not respond as being.... well, lacking in character is the nicest way I can say it. 
Jul 30, 2021
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#12
Wwll, old timer, I'm only 50 but i feel the same way as you: saying "good game" or "gg" is polite and proper sportsmanlike conduct. You dont even have to compliment the opponent, you can say "thanks for the game".
Jul 30, 2021
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#14
GBTGBA wrote:
I’m polite. I put ‘GG’ as my flair to tell everyone GG so I’m being very courteous🤝I usually don’t have time to say GG in fast games. If I have time to say it I prefer my opponent to say it first. Because I’ve seen people say they’re annoyed with people saying GG. I think most people prefer you don’t say anything at all.
I'm one of those. If I botch a winning position through some ridiculous oversight or whatever and end up losing, I really don't like someone telling me ''good game''. Saying ''thanks for the game'' as suggested by the gentleman above me is so much better (and, admittedly, probably what is meant by 'good game' in most cases but still). Oh well, I'm probably overthinking it all.
When Fischer played Botvinnik at Varna in 1962, he only spoke 3 words:
1) Fischer
2) Sorry
3) Draw
tygxc wrote:
Chess is not about politeness or courtesies and online even less so. Handshakes are out of fashion in this COVID era. Many courtesies are hypocrite, like insincerely wishing 'good luck' at the start, or saying 'good game' after a bad game. Just play.
I think it's like greeting to strangers, "how are you doing?" Like the last thing you care about is a stranger's well-being. It's just part of the human thing, you just do it or you will be labelled as weird.
OTB I will say "good game". In daily games I will say "good game". In live chess online it's pointless...most opponents have already clicked on to the next game by the time you would type anything. I have chat turned off, because there's no time to type anything and all that happens in chat is abuse from losing players anyway 
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I just write a smiley face and GG even if I lose. 👍
I've posted about this before and it's more irritating now than then. I admit I'm 71 years old, and maybe things were different in my day. You never ended a game (of anything) without a kind word or gesture to your opponent. For those who played kids sports such as Little League, the teams always lined up and shook hands at the end of the game. What is it with Chess that players ignore common courtesies?