What you should do is try to figure out why you lost, then try to not make the same mistake next game. And you will find people who insult you whether or not you lose.
How do you overcome the feeling after you lose?
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By playing another game and winning.
Play another game and win! Simple
epictournament wrote:
What you should do is try to figure out why you lost, then try to not make the same mistake next game. And you will find people who insult you whether or not you lose.
Didn't read the entire OP, but the above advice is what I try to follow. I'm happy to lose online when I can learn something; isn't online really just training anyway? The only down side to losing (online) that I can see is your rating drops so low that you get terrible opponents, but then, just think of all the wins you'll rack up : )
I start another game.
i like talking to people
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Dec 12, 2017
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Comment #10
Is it priceless?
Is it shameless?
Is it pointless?
I don't know, but it left me speechless.
taking a cold drink
Dec 12, 2017
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I just played a game and the fellow I was playing brought up the winning losing thing
my humble opinion on this matter is that people are out to lunch
ww two commandos had that hitler directive - if captured they would be killed because hitler said they were not soldiers entitled to geneva convention but gangsters who were to be put to death
- so many people on chess com take chess like it is war and we are under hitlers commando directive
- like they are out of touch and take chess too seriously - like if you are a 2500 player then take it seariously BUT IF NOT THEN JUST REALIZE IT IS JUST A GAME
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6 min ago
I hear you - and I think it is well put - I just wish I was a better chess player. I play every day, and doesn't seem to get any better. Good to remember that it doesn't count for anything. Thanks anyway
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most people are selfish greedy narrow minded and only think about themselves and to guess their personality without meeting them a good guess would be they are practical - meat on the table bread in hand what did you do for me lately - THEN in the chess world they are the exact opposite - not practical - they make chess out to be a super important big deal -you lost a game to me big deal - do you think that ONE HUNDRED YEARS FROM NOW i AM GOING TO SAY WOO HOO - i BEAT VLUNNE IN A GAME OF CHESS - well I think not one hundred years from now we will all be thinking about other stuff BUT NOT CHESS
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- I do not take my own advise but if you want to get better in chess - do not waste your life with lessons simply know that at the beginning the opponent can move eight pawns and two knights - and from then on pay attention to what squares he can take and what squares you control and can take - do this for every move until later in the game it turns into a free for all
like I am old and I might have lost a million games won a million games and drawn a million games - highest I got was 1500 for a while - not I am stuck about 1300
noone knows it is just a game and everyone seems to lose sight of the fact that it is just a game - our time spent on chess com does not count for nothing
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Dec 12, 2017
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experiment on old site you could copy and paste multiple stuff in forums with out it looking ph c d up - posting multiple from old site to have a look see
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6 min ago
I hear you - and I think it is well put - I just wish I was a better chess player. I play every day, and doesn't seem to get any better. Good to remember that it doesn't count for anything. Thanks anyway
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Just now
most people are selfish greedy narrow minded and only think about themselves and to guess their personality without meeting them a good guess would be they are practical - meat on the table bread in hand what did you do for me lately - THEN in the chess world they are the exact opposite - not practical - they make chess out to be a super important big deal -you lost a game to me big deal - do you think that ONE HUNDRED YEARS FROM NOW i AM GOING TO SAY WOO HOO - i BEAT VLUNNE IN A GAME OF CHESS - well I think not one hundred years from now we will all be thinking about other stuff BUT NOT CHESS
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Just now
- I do not take my own advise but if you want to get better in chess - do not waste your life with lessons simply know that at the beginning the opponent can move eight pawns and two knights - and from then on pay attention to what squares he can take and what squares you control and can take - do this for every move until later in the game it turns into a free for all
Just don't lose.
Dec 12, 2017
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ah brilliant, a couple of octagenarian couch spuds with pipes trying to excite the male community. gimme a freaking bucket :(
Play another game and win! Simple as that.
How do you feel when you lose a chess game? Are you ecstatic and happy ? Or are you sad and lamented?
I feel sad because i did not teach my opponent a free chess lesson. also i don't like it when i wasted all that time. and sometimes on chess.com, my opponents insult me and laugh and call me stupid player
Your heart is racing, your breathing is shallow, and your mind can’t seem to focus on anything other than what’s stressing you out. Before you feel completely swallowed up by that overwhelming and panicky feeling, there are easy ways to get some quick relief.
Count your breath
This is one of the fastest ways to calm yourself. Sit down in as quiet a space as you can find and start counting your breaths. Every time you exhale, that’s “1.” When you reach “5,” start again from “1.” In demonstrating this simple but effective breathing technique, Dr. Andrew Weil suggests that you don’t try to influence your breath -- it may be fast and shallow when you start -- but simply focus on counting it. Breathing activates your parasympathetic system (the one responsible for relaxation) and helps your mind quiet down.
Go for a 10-minute walk outside
Walking activates nerve cells in your brain which help you relax, and being outside will give you a quick shift in perspective. Don’t worry about how fast you move; just go at whatever pace seems right (when you’re already stressed, you don’t want to push yourself more). But do try to keep your torso straight and walk as you would if you felt confident -- studies show that your posture affects the positive impact of your walk.
Schedule your stress
This might sound counter-intuitive but give it a shot: Allot yourself a set amount of time to think about what’s stressing you out. Actually schedule it on your calendar and say, “For the next 20 minutes I’m going to think about why I feel so overloaded.” Consider writing it down (studies have shown it actually helps reduce anxiety). At the end of your “stress time,” you’re done. While your brain won’t forget your stress, allowing it a set period of time to focus on it should make it easier to move on to something else.
Focus on something that’s good
In one study, 67% of people who consider themselves good at managing stress said they regularly focus on what’s positive or good in their lives. When you’re in the middle of a stress storm, focusing on something good (no matter how small) might seem like a ridiculous idea, but try it.
Practice some self-compassion (a.k.a., give yourself a break and go get a Whopper with Bacon and Cheese from Burger King, YUM!)
Studies show that when you’re kinder to yourself, you’re happier and less depressed, so when you’re overwhelmed by stress, do something nice for yourself. The way you would act toward a friend who told you they were stressed out is how you should treat yourself. Eat something you enjoy, make a little more free time in your schedule, take a yoga class that chills you out.
Write down something you’ve accomplished recently
A lot of our daily stress centers on impending tasks that are overwhelming. “You can do it!” pep talks seem silly when you feel overloaded, so instead, write down a few things you’ve recently done or accomplished. It’s a good way to feel more productive, and it will help make what’s coming up feel more manageable.