How to get your girlfriend to play chess?
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Sep 17, 2007
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make an appointment for yourself with a shrink, and dump her in the meantime.
I recently attempted the same endevour and also ended in failure. She claimed it to be boring. In any event, I would say not to force it on her, that could lead to bad places. I have always expressed my love for the game to her and she has agreed to give it another chance "someday".
Oh well :)
my girlfriend actually plays on here now... she said that she just wants to play until she learns to beat me haha... so, as long as i keep improving, maybe she will keep playing
Sep 17, 2007
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if you solve this you would be the next $1,000,000,000,000,000-aire :) you could then double your money by taking your methodology and applying it to football...
There's no rule that says a couple has to do everything together. I think every
couple should be able to spend some time apart anyway. So make Chess your
thing if she's not interested. And if she comes around, well that's fine too.
Perhaps you tried too hard when teaching her; chess can be overwhelming
to someone new to the game. Perhaps you should gently introduce her to the
game by just letting her watch you play, with just a little explaination as an aside,
rather than as the whole point of you two being together at the time. Who knows,
perhaps she was more concerned about being taught, which implies an unequal relationship, than finding the game to be too tough.
Sep 17, 2007
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My girlfriend gets irritated with me playing all the time and she has no interest in learning how to play. I think her goal in general is to suck the life and energy out of me till I just give up and let her have her way. I just have to remember to keep my "pimp hand" strong....and see a therapist at least once a week.
I have no GFriend, but brandon, if you were to start VERY SLOWLY, by teaching her how to, signing up some courses online, or just... plain and simple...
ASK HER IF SHE EVEN WANTS TO PLAY CHESS!!!!!!!!!!!!
Erik, I love your comment.
We have to be careful though. If they somehow figured out how to flip it around on us we would all be watching Oprah and going to Enrique Iglesias concerts.
When I found a woman who could play chess I married her.
Sep 17, 2007
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anaxagoras wrote:
When I found a woman who could play chess I married her.
That was part of her evil plan.
Sep 17, 2007
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tonightonly7 wrote:
Erik, I love your comment.
We have to be careful though. If they somehow figured out how to flip it around on us we would all be watching Oprah and going to Enrique Iglesias concerts.
doh!! you're right!
Sep 17, 2007
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Do you know Adele Rivero?
If not, she was whom some consider the first U.S. Women's Champion (although there's every reason to believe this isn't so) and a very lovely lady. She took up, and excelled in, chess because her huband (a Spaniard - not that his nationality is relevant) told her that chess was simply too difficult for women to learn well.
Brandon,
Perhaps you could look at this from a different perspective, and just enjoy a little 'Brandon-time'. After all, if she were to learn the game and eclipse your efforts, you may wish (after just one more public anecdote) that you had never encouraged her in the first place! Every cloud has a silver lining, eh? 
In general chess appeals to the basic nature of the way God designed men. We were designed for conflict and struggle and battle. Ladies are designed to be more relationship oriented. Placing ladies in a position to think and plan a battle that attacks another is in conflict with the relationship design. Please remember that this is in general, because we know people who would be the exception to the rule. There would be ladies that would enjoy the hunt and battle. I work with a lady that deer hunts. I am married to a lady that enjoys doing several activities that most ladies would never consider doing. I also know several men that are excellent in their chosen field of relationships. Dr. James Dobson, Dr. Gary Smalley, these are two that have brought healing and restortation to broken relationships.
Ya, true I will just sit back and see what happens over time, sometimes she tells me she hates chess, other times she tells me she feels like she could play a million chess games. I will never understand...
If you really want your wife or girlfriend to play chess (this will work with kids too,) then tell her "I completely forbid you to play chess!"
chessbot3000 wrote:
If you really want your wife or girlfriend to play chess (this will work with kids too,) then tell her "I completely forbid you to play chess!"
INDEED! REVERSE PSCHOLOGY! Works every time.
My wife just calls me a geek and laughs.......However I have baby twin sons - so one day she'll be outnumbered!!!! Ha!
A chess player with a girlfriend? Are you kiddin'?
Seriously, on those rare occasions when I had girlfriends they were willing to learn on their own. One of them always beat me since she was allowed to teleport her pieces back on the board at whim. (When will this functionality be added to the server?)
Unlike teaching someone to be good at chess, teaching someone how to play chess just requires how the silly things move about.
Ok so recently I got my girlfriend to agree to learn how to play chess. So I was trying to teach her some basic chess tactics and opening moves and I think I overwhelmed her and I made her cry. Than she told me that she tried to like chess but just can't. What do I do, is there a way to spark interest in chess or should I just leave it go what should I do I don't want to hurt her feelings by playing chess or talking about it?