My closest friends quit playing chess with me many years ago. They said it wasnt any fun losing all the time so I guess I dont blame them. In the years that followed of tournament chess many of my fiercest rivals became friends and we always try to beat each other when we play, whether its just "friendly" hours of blitz or in a tournament game. Thats just the way it is. My wife is also a chess fanatic and has been over 1900 fide and I show her no mercy when we play and she shows me none. Its just the nature of the game.
Is it a big problem for you to play to Win VS your friends?
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Feb 4, 2009
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None of my friends, with the exception of the ones I made from playing chess, play.
So that was never a problem.. and of course I try to wipe everyone off the board... the longer you've been my friend the better :P.
I'm quite surprised. I didn't know everyone was more interested in keeping their own little pride over having fun or being polite with a friend. Of course I'd play at my best lvl against a friend with similar skills; but I feel no need to blow to bits some poor fellow who's new to the game just to "prove my superiority"
I've read that old argument "playing below my skills is even more disrespectful" but it's bs to me. Some one I know, with a simmilar strength to mine, plays against 5 year old children and absolutely destroys them. I think that's just poor sportsmanship. If you wan't to play at your full strenth against an inferior oponent and show your superior skills then GO AHEAD: give the guy a queen advantage or any other to level it up and show him how good you are.
If playing against a low lvl friend you refuse to play below your level AND give any advantage then you're just weak of mind and/or too afraid to loose. Unless he wants it that way and challenges you.
I've read here too this statment that the inferior player will learn more being anihilated all the time... I don't agree. Something very important in the learning process is motivation. And believe me: the average human being won't be very motivated by geting smacked over and over again.
Of course this is just my opinion 
Friendly games are fun and entertainment!
Not all of us and our partners take it with respect to Chess and anybody around the Game!
We need always maintain control over the tongue! The flame of players rush like a drugs on the blood! A lot of players lost any breaks of their personalities!
They ever forgot a God!
They use foul language, like a hooligans!
They fight, after the game!
The childish behavior is so dramatic!
Stay away from friendly Chess! or play, like a man, on silence...
If you prefer to teach your friends to play Chess, ask them to pay fees for any foul language, taking moves back, and throwing a pieces from a board!
Have you Chess Life Insurance from www.chess.com?
Greg
Playing with your friends is a big Challenge!
Playing respect and love is not easy!
Not too many persons like to be a loosers in the life, like in the Chess!
Chess is a War Sport Entertainment!
It all about a flame and superiority!
Greg
I have no friends when I play chess. Anybody who sits across the board from me is the enemy, and I play to beat them. After the game is over, win, lose, or draw, THEN we are friends.
NONE of my friends play chess, so when I am with them I don't talk about chess at all.. (and they dont talk about their piano lessons ;)
Hi everyone,
I like what Omicron said. Playing with friends (I assume this means non-skilled friends), of course you play down to their level. I hope you might be giving them construtive advice and a little encouragement along the way. Yes, you allow children to win. It means much more to them and just perhaps you have encouraged a future chess player. It is sad that some of us feel a need to blast non-skilled players. So, I guess I am saying, Chess with non-skilled players is not a war, it is not for blood. It can be, ... just for fun.
If your friend is a skilled player then they will expect you to play your best. So, in this case, blast away!
Feb 4, 2009
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#30
I also agree with omicron. Of course I'm going to play my best against friends that know how to play chess, or anyone that does so. Now if they are learning I'll try to "reduce" my level of play so that they can learn and have a chance.
That doesn´t mean I´m going to lose on purpose, just that I won't try to win as quickly as possible or as brilliantly as possible.
A game Isn´t always about winning...
It can happen anywhere, under the Moon!
Chess players are spread the World, like a bugs!
Greg