Rude Rematch Requests : Honor them?

While I see no problem agreeing to rematches for correspondence games such as the ones here (Online Chess), I find it very annoying in the case of Slow Live games (G/60, G45 45 etc.) or even after a blitz game when my opponent starts asking for rematches instantaneously and keeps repeating the request.

Dare I fail to honor it within a few seconds => and POW! => I am immediately lashed at with trash talk or a bitter expletive-fest. Usually happens more after a close game or if my opponent was higher rated than me. I asked myself why I find it annoying ... maybe I like to look at the games I just played. Maybe I'd like to play another opponent. Or maybe...just maybe I have stuff to do outside chess that is a wee bit more important than fetching my opponent's bruised ego an ice-cream cone.

Let me be clear that I don't refuse them every time. If my opponent is decent enough to "gg..thx" me or ask politely for a rematch (meaning => Only one request), I'lll surely agree if I'm keen on playing more chess at the time.

What's the general consensus over here at chess.com? Always honor the rematch request ... even from the rude ones?

Online and OTB I always accept rematches. I usually want to play again anyway.

I keep track of people who are rude during rematches or anywhere else and simply refuse to play against them again.  Hopefully they will either learn the lesson and be polite or eventually, having nobody left to play, leave the site.

Good advice here^^. I would rematch them once, so I could beat them again and lower their inflated self esteem.

All good adnice and I agree.

people who try to teach lessons online are silly.

Depends, sometimes I don't honor them, other times I go back and rout them. Normally I don't get much rematch requests. Most people just close the window.

For Online Chess I usually accept rematches.

It's the same as leaving a lower tip in the hope of encouraging better service. A much better strategy is to let the manager know if your service was bad. The indirect leaving a lower tip (e.g. 10%) just doesn't work very well.

Considering 90+% of my online opponents dont even have the courtsy to say hi..good luck..or anything nice.  I NEVER play the same person more than once in any given day.  The rudeness doesnt bother me as much as it used to.  Im considerate no matter what, and them thank you for the game. 

You cant control how others act but you can control how you act.

That was one thing I liked about ICC was the ability to censor people so I didn't have to hear from them again.  Does that feature exist here?

There is no obligation to accept a rematch, especially if it is with an opponent you do not enjoy playing.  Ignore them, report them to the staff if necessary.  The site probably won't lose money by banning them since the rudest people tend to be the cheapest people and they are probably on free memberships.

I rarely do rematches as I've limited time and opportunity to play live chess so I'd rather play multiple people.  If someone's ego is so savaged by losing to me they have to try again they are playing the wrong game.

Cpawn, one reason people don't spend time on opening remarks is, if they're like me, I can barely make time for the move, typing remarks greatly ups the chance I'll lose on time.  Game 15+ I can chit chat.  Occasions when family and work cooperate that I can play Game 15?  Hasn't happened yet.

You are so right.

If someone's rude, why play with them? I haven't encountered this, I always accept rematch challenges. But if he's rude? No, I won't.

These statements are in my profile for this very purpose:

Chess is my other personal passion. If we get to play a game or two and have some fun, that'd be great. Since neither of us is making our living playing chess, let's be light-hearted about it. I'll issue a 'gl' for good luck at the beginning, and always offer a 'handshake' at the end regardless of outcome.

Please remember, too - should we play a game in either Online or Live - that there is NO obligation on either your part or mine to play a rematch regardless of the outcome of a first game. If I refuse your request for a rematch that is not an offensive act and deserves no insult.

Of course, few will have read this before playing a first game but I'll surely point them there if there is a scene.

Yes. It's called block user.

If you go to your personal homepage, click edit personal profile, then click edit privacy settings, at the bottom of that page you'll see a table into which you can enter usernames that you'd liked blocked. Blocked users cannot challenge you, cannot communicate with you, and cannot join tournaments that you create.

It's pretty effective for screening out those with whom you'd like no further chess.com contact. If, in the future, you'd like to restore communications with that person, simply remove that username from the table.

 Now if it could just be a simpler interface so it can be done while in live chess. Something like "Block User: CarlMI" on the command line.  I do notice that the effects of Block User listed are only: Blocked members will be unable to post on your Notes section or send you Messages which is far less than what you list and does not seem aimed at live chess.  I have not used it, however, nor had a need to and can't say what it does or does not do.  It does seeem unnecessarily complicated to execute however.

Carl, if you are in Live Chess AND that player is in Live Chess, simply click on the player's username and one of the options in the pop-up menu is Block User. This is fairly simple, however it does require that you are able to find that player's username either in a tell in Main Chat or a tell in your game window or in the list of players playing a game or making a seek. If the player logs out, then you have to use the technique cited above.

Rudeness is inexcusable. I never grant a rematch to the rude.  Too many decent people here to waste time with jerks.

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Why would you reward bad behavior? Block user immediately.

Thank you.