Should I Let My GF Win

My GF and i play all the time. I normally win, I'm around 1000 and she is around 700. 

She has been beating me this last game we have setup on 3 day moves. i see a checkmate with a back rank rook. should i take it even though she is up like 17 points in pieces on me? or should i act like i dont see it....?

hmmm i have 2 days to decide

Help

Can you show me the position please?

well i would like it to be something she finds fun and wants to keep doing with me. but i do beat her most of the time and losing this one would probably make her lose her motivation to play me anymore or as much haha

I found something interesting after watching TED-Ed video based on a Game theory challenge... It says that humans try to calculate how does other person behave and the higher the number of reasoning they consider the greater the K-level reasoning... I found a vague similarities between the graph ok K-level reasoning and the graph of the distribution of elo ratings in chess.com... If my hunch is true, K-level reasoning could determine on how many half moves does a player calculate...

Therefore, your GF which is 700 elo can calculate an average of 3 half moves... Therefore, there is a high chance that it is okay to play checkmate in 1...

its my move and im black of course

Hmm interesting. I know she wouldnt get mad at me or something she isnt a sore loser and more mature than that. i would like her to want to still play with me though haha. i mean i am a higher rating than her so it would be expected i would win more. and what you say does make sense. she would see it as a learning experience. we have all had to learn form those kind of moves to get better.

My advice is never let your gf win just because you're "nice", but do what you feel more logical

vbeen married 30 years, never let mrs goodwin win yet, we play a lot otb, mostly at dinner time. shes won three. I drink from time to time, and when she wins the joy and celebrations are wonderful and a sight to beholden. Never let your spouse win at chess.

she played a4??

sadly, a move like that deserves the ultimate punishment.

you could pretend you thought it was only a check.

ok doing it. rook going in for the kill haha

I have been married to a titled player and chess coach for the last 15 years and he’s never once let me, our kids or any of his student win. I wouldn’t want him to either, I wouldn’t be as good as I am now if he had placated my ego. Many of our games that we play otb will start out a game and then we start discussing what moves/lines we think are better, so if it’s that kind of game, it’s different. From what it sounds like, it is just a regular game and there’s no benefit to letting her miss important basic defense and checkmates patterns. If she loses motivation from losing then chess isn’t for her, because there’s a lot of losing in chess, best get used to it.

A very interesting perspective, thanks for sharing.

Should we know more about your gf than you?

My gf would be mad if she found out I let her win. No one learns from getting something for nothing.

Teach her to improve and winning for her will be an accomlishment.

Unless of course she'll give you a good time if she wins. Then, by all means, lose often.

hang on a sec there Billy.

so if someone gave me My 60 Memorable Games by Bobby Fischer for a Christmas present, i wouldn’t learn anything from it ??

If you see the checkmate, you should go for it—it’s part of the game and a great way to learn together. It sounds like she’s playing really well, so after the match, you can celebrate her progress and even talk through the moves to share ideas. It’ll help keep your games fun and competitive while also giving her a chance to grow as a player. Win or lose, the goal is to keep it enjoyable for both of you!