Settings > Privacy > May see my friend list > Friends or only me.
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When you click on settings, can you not see a privacy button??
whats upgrade? like upgrade to membership?
Then do you have a computer which u can use??
You could do it by mobile browser.
On Ipad, you have to click on Safari or Chrome and then go to Chess.com and then Settings > Privacy > May see my friend list > Friends or only me.