Why show poor sportsmanship???

Through out time, people have been saying horrible things to one another. You cannot change human nature. I really wish that some of these people would grow up and stop taking games so seriously.

See? I told all of guys! Poor sportsmanship means nothing! Exactly, we come here to play chess.com for fun and to chill out, not to take the games so seriously that the fun's been sucked out. I understand that we can't change those people, I just wanted to get some ideas why do people take things so seriously that, again, things start becoming hostile. Why do people care so much that they lost on time even if they were in a winning position? If you lost on time, just play faster and focus more next time! No need to blame an opponent. Good points people

When I play I don't care if I win or lose, I play because I enjoy it. Some people care more about their rating points and less about having fun.

What do you mean?

Even if I may disagree partially with some of your points, you still have a very constructed and a civilized statement. I know now that I can't change anyone nor their problems should become mine. Your point shows that my style of chess won't and shouldn't affect anyone or just myself. You do not need to worry that I am bothered by poor sportsmanship, I am doing great and you seem to be a very nice person by the way. Thank you very much for sharing your view with me. Stay gold and have a wonderful time, buddy!

Sure you said that. I'm just curious, good job in what?

In my arrogant opinion, I did a good job in nothing right? Don't worry, I'm not taking things personally, just making a quick guess

Sorry, I still don't get it. Eh, it doesn't really matter anyways, forget what I said. I saw your chess games and you seem to be a very wonderful player! Very impressive and I hope you have a very nice day and stay strong!

That now makes more sense! I now 100% agree with you, you weren't pointing out the extremist aspects of poor sportsmanship, but more of the common, orthodox theories of poor sportsmanship. Eh, that kind of poor sportsmanship doesn't bother me at all!

See? If anyone has a loss in a chess game and gets upset or mad, just keep it to yourselves! All you guys here know how to behave like civilized people! It's hard to respect to those who just spit in your faces :/ 

I get upset and "mad" but only with myself if I mess up a game I was winning.  If I lose 10 games in a row by being outplayed ,it doesn't bother me in the slightest.

It is a rare person who cannot be affected in some way or another, Mr Spock perhaps ?

I don't know about Mister Spock, but yeah, when I mess up in a game, I just take it easy and move on. I just try to do better and take chess only as a hobby. I don't care about other people's business. Good logic thinking and you're a strong player as well.

Everyone s got their own style of playing. Like u said the moderate stuff is ok but extreme examples are of course uncalled for.

I remember Hikaru answering “yes” to the question “have you ever smashed anything or shouted after losing a game?” The fact that someone is an emotional player shouldn’t affect the game overall. Just because someone is harsher on themselves or their opponent doesn’t affect their game. Maybe their willpower and drive for the game is different than yours. Everyone will view the game of chess differently so let their reactions be different as well. Maybe someone was just angry because your move was outrageous LG good and their move was outrageous LG bad.

I agree! I mean if someone is mad, because they made a bad move and I made a good one, they may not be, like what you said, the kind of madness where they just plain hate ya. You're right, some may be showing class in their hearts

Well, if they have any sense, they would just try and learn so that next time they don't make at least that sort of mistake again. That's why though I get mad at myself, I do use the computer analysis on here and watch two fantastic streamers who will go over the game for you.

Its hard not to get mad after a simple blunder spoils a really good game though

Hey, don't feel guilty that a simple blunder spoils a good game! It happens to everyone sequentially! You are hundred percent right, I do try to analyze my games too to improve my chess as well as positional studies. Having really good streamers do help you a lot, I agree. I have a coach though. 

No guilt just self anger

Coaching helps significantly. Just from learning “chess is 99% tactics” my rating went from 900 to 1250 . Hopefully w/ more lesson n more tactics I can continue to improve.

once I played a team championship match in rapid chess and our board 2 was not playing so well, then one random guy said to the player who was playing against our board 2 that he is weakend and that he should give it a chance. Before the round our board 2 played against a FM and the FM one in a rook endgame where he had a slight advantage. It was the longest game of the round. Everyone saw it. Our board 2 was angry because he said that the FM always is winning like that by squeezing rook endgames. In a way I found his argument a bit insufficient. It is always nice to win with a slight advantage in a rook endgame. I told him Carlsen also wins a lot of his games like this. Then he said Carlsen is allowed to do so. That was a crazy day. Maybe I will have some other examples. But that is only one I can think of.