dating for chess players?

That is gonna be hard. Play chess is not something that women look for in men, and the majority of women don't even know how to play chess. I think that things are gonna be much easier if you let the chess out of this. 

Dating without chess??  Is that a mainline novelty?

Been there=Did that

About time!

I don't see why not?!

I can provide!

ahahahahah 

Chess Mates.

"How did you meet your husband?"

"Why, on the chess.com forums, of course!"

Do you think this conversation will ever happen?!

HO-H0-HO, Merry Christmas,

    Chess.com is probably NOT the best place to meet women.  However . . . .

     While I personally think this is the most INappropriate forum ever begun on Chess.com . . . I do have some good advice.  The basis of my advice is that what follows is the same advice I gave to my son Todd about five months after he left for his freshman year in college, say in January, 2001.  The advice worked famously and today Todd (Xaneus** online giving lots of information on this subject) has two jobs, one of which is running his hedge fund; and the other is as a dating expert for an internationally known corporation which has vastly refined the art of turning timid, milquetoast, even obsequious males into confident ladies' men . . . and helping many such men find the loves of their lives . . . and, more importantly, helping such men keep these truly interesting, fun-to-be-around, vivacious, attractive and intelligent young ladies happy and deeply attracted to them (that is:  the formerly milquetoast guys evolve themselves into a better, stronger and more interesting version of themselves that remains forever attractive to the exciting ladies) AMEN!

      In our January, 2001 phone call, despite being handsome and athletic (soccer letterman in college) and intelligent: captain of two scholastic chess championship teams in Colorado and being a National Merit Scholar. . . Todd revealed that he was still a virgin and asked for any advice I could give him on succeeding with women. Here are my immortal words . . . .

   1.  Be a man  -- women are not real crazy about "nice guys" who don't exhibit their maleness and especially they aren't attracted to namby-pamby nice guys who try too hard to impress them.  Women don't woo wimps.  The most impressive thing you can do, is to never try to impress a woman.  Humphrey Bogart's roles in Casablanca, The Maltese Falcoln  and The Big Sleep are the models you might try to emulate -- girls consider guys who are totally driven in commitment to their own affairs to be very sexy and do NOT respect men who live for a woman and sacrifice greatly for a woman . . .  the latter are destined to end up as stalkers.  By the way, Rhett Butler early in the movie Gone with the Wind and in the very last scene is the perfect fellow to emulate.  Always be willing to walk away from all but the perfect woman (and don't take crap from "perfect women," either).  In short, be willing to give her what she needs:  a romantic male.

   2.  Be willing to appear DISAGREEABLE to her.  Politely, but firmly let her know when you are absolutely NOT buying her nonsense and politely but firmly let her know why.

    3.  Play hard to get:  end the conversations and calls, etc. before she'd prefer it ends.  Let her enjoy the deep treasure-pleasure of missing you . . . in the early dating stages that means once or twice a week together max.  Don't chase her.  Let her have the joy of chasing you.

    3. Don't let her get away with bad manners.  Politely but firmly tell her what you expect and hold her to it.

    4.  Tease-Tease-Tease.  Women love it.

    5.  Playful men are attractive.  Don't apologize when criticized.  My favorite line is "Consider it part of my charm, honey."

    6. Do NOT buy women drinks, presents, flowers, wine, chocolates, etc. until you've met a fabulous women and dated her five or six weeks -- even then, keep the presents small and inexpensive.  Then if you gift her once a month, that could be TOO much.  A lot of girls like to buy men presents and take them out.  But never try to impress a woman; never try to BUY her love.  When things get real serious, find a way to balance your new cooler persona with that of a man who loves her.  Remember she was attracted to the exciting freer and more relaxed version of YOU so give her what she needs while still showing affection.

    7.  Like the one fellow said above, don't expect to find girls at chess clubs or chess touraments . . . go to the mall; nightclubs; churches; laundry rooms; grocery stores; gyms; foreign language classes; etc.  You won't catch many fish in the Mojave Desert.  Just be friendly and tease and concentrate on YOU having fun.  Surprisingly, just being brave enough to approach (and GASP!! FAIL) puts you ahead of 87.5% of the other fellows out there.  Oh, by the way, pickup lines don't work too well except for bold guys who don't really need them at all.  Aloof (cocky) - funny fellows like Rhett Butler and Humphrey Bogart are mainly out to please themselves and in doing so -- make the people around them feel happy to be part of their party.

    8.  When in doubt, APPROACH!  Be brave and be willing to flirt with a lot of girls, what can they say but "No thanks."  Better that a cute woman shoots you down once in awhile . . . than that you shoot yourself down without trying.

Good luck in your love life,

Bob

** Todd (as Xaneus) had a small role late in Neill Strauss' true-to-life and iconic book The Game:  Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists back around the turn of the century.

I am not reading that

@ A1Rajjpuut: Are you the guy who posts all the "Love Guru" threads?

The guy that makes the love potions is the same that sells fake/real passports? If it's like that, he has a very diversified business.

Who said I was single?

try a dating site! :-) I'm sure you find someone who likes chess on regular dating sites. Why not join a chess club?   Good luck :-) 

I closed my eyes at this point.

Is it gone yet?

I still haven't dared to look. I just had supper a little while ago.

Google should provide you with some entertaining rear-view images of Baboons, then.